Lucky Girl Syndrome: The Toxicity of Positivity

By Madeline Crowley

As I opened Tik Tok on January 1st this year, the first video to pop up on my for you page was a girl saying how everything always worked out in her favor, “I always get what I want” and “I’m the luckiest girl on earth.” At first, I was somewhat annoyed by the tone of her voice which sounded so arrogant, bragging about this kind of luck she was experiencing, but as I listened in more I became intrigued by her theory about how I could become lucky myself. This theory, which was first developed on Tik Toks social media platform, is a form of manifestation done by influencers who claim to be “lucky girls.” The idea is that simply saying out loud how lucky you are and how everything always works out for you several times a day will make it come true. A positive thought is a genuine force of the universe and you have the power to harness it. Lucky girl syndrome essentially follows the law of attraction and the concept of manifesting where whatever you put out in the universe will come back to you. 

Being that it was the first day of the year and my intentions were strictly set on making it a good one I didn’t miss my opportunity to give the theory a trial. This trial was a short one because I never really believed in the idea of manifestation before. It simply does not have any scientific basis and I had just seen it as just a form of positivity that I could harness myself most of the time without manifesting. What I found from trying this out was that it was actually really toxic-as most Tik Tok trends are. Obtaining the lucky girl mindset puts you in a headspace where you think you should get everything you deserve. In other words, using this kind of manifestation can lead to too much positivity because, in the real world, nothing is easy or always comes your way. It also could serve as a comfort or coping mechanism for someone that ultimately just obscures their view of the root of their problems. The “lucky girls” for apparent reasons see themselves as “better” than everyone else simply because they are lucky. Not only that, but the idea of making yourself lucky is just not realistic because luck, like chance, is not a scientific matter.